So some things that i know i deff need for my video are

my vases- the one of the wrong color and the one of the right color.

a picture of my dress, and the dress i first wanted that was out of stock.

i want to use the statistics i have to compare my experience and the average wedding

i also think i want to show the invitation, and the flowers.

I’m not sure yet how i’m going to put it all together though.

I need to figure out our wedding song so i can play it in the video.

I also need to figure out how to show davids bridal being rude to me when trying to buy my dress

I think i want to run my 3 ideas by a few people in class tomorrow to see what one they like best.

I think I answered these questions in the other parts of my essay questions.  I just want people to understand how stressful it is to plan a wedding, how it affects the attitude of a bride and how they shouldn’t judge brides to be. I know that I’ve learned not to judge until you know how something actually affects someone.

I used to think that brides to be were mean, rude, stuck up and bitchy, but now i realize that there is a lot of stress. The stress is from planning the wedding. If a girl has these hopes and dreams about her wedding and something goes wrong it is horrible. I learned this by going through the stress first hand. The only thing that went OK was the rings. We got those then i tried to pick out my dress, the ones i liked were either very expensive, or out of stock.  The people at the bridal shop were rude, brought me gold dresses, and snatched things out of my hands. The vases we ordered were the wrong color. They were a blue green instead of cornflower blue. They only cost $90 and to send them back we would have had to pay $121. Which is insane!

What i learned from all this is that if a bride to be has to deal with all of this she has the right to be a bitch. I’ve had my wedding planned since i was a little girl and when everything went wrong i started to think that my dream would not work. I think that this fits the old saying “Walk a mile in some one else’s shoes” this fits because you never know how it really is until you do something. I would probably still think that brides blow everything out of proportion but now i know that is not true and they have a right to be bitchy. Everyone only expects to get married once so you want they day to be perfect.

* what is it your trying to understand by making this film?

I’m trying to show how stressful it is to plan a wedding, how much stuff can go wrong with planning the wedding. I want to show that because everything is so stressful that is why brides become “bridezillas” its not that a bride to be is psycho or bitchy its that little girls grow up dreaming about their wedding so if something goes wrong you feel everything is ruined. I went through this so many times with all different things.

I want to show this by showing the problems with my dress. How the Davids Bridal was rude, the dress sizes were smaller then normal sizes, the dress i wanted was out of stock. How the napkins are taking forever, how the vases were the wrong color, and take too much money to ship back.

My interesting facts is how long the average engagement is- its 16 months, the average age of the bride is 26 and the average age of the groom is 28 and the average price spent on a bridal dress is $1,266.

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Something that surprised me is that the averages engagement is 16 months. This means my engagement is 14 months less then the average time others get to plan their wedding. Also I’m 7 years younger then the average bride, and my dress cost $1,069 less then the average dress. I think that this is important to document in my film to show how low of a budget that i have. The flowers are the colors i want in the wedding that is why I chose those. I chose that video because that is from the show Bridezilla. I think that it showed how bitchy brides can be. Then i want to show why brides can get so bitchy.

After i published this I went on MSN.com and saw THIS. I thought it was interesting.

the first moment i want to talk about is the dress. I went to davids bridal and they were so rude to me.  I told them we were on  budget and they were still giving me like $1,000 gowns, i wanted a specific style (galina) it doesn’t puff out it just flows and my wedding is outside so i thought that would be best. I also told them i want white or off white. She was brining me poofy gowns, gold gowns, gowns that were 1/2 see through. I found one skirt and top combo that i wanted them to hold until the next day for my mom to come buy she ripped it out of my hand told me they don’t do holds and walked away without saying anything else.  Also when buying a wedding dress you have to go up in sizes. I couldn’t find a dress that fit me good, none of them would zip up when they got close to the top. I then found the perfect dress online and then it was out of stock, it took me 2 weeks to find a dress and i only had 8 weeks till the wedding.

Another moment is with the vases. my colors are blue and yellow. My mom and i went on to find favors and we found these nice vases to give. There were 2 kind of blues, one was a green blue and one was the perfect blue. we ordered the wrong color blue, they told us we could ship them back and they would only keep 10% for a restocking fee and we could reorder the other blue. We went to UPS and FEDEX to find that they would charge $121 to ship them back to canada and we would have to pay another $80 for new vases if they didn’t get their in 3 days.  I cried when this happened but we ended up keeping those and just ordering the other vases too.

For the dresses i think i would just have to show pictures of some of the ones i wanted from davids bridal, then show the one i really fell in love with online that was out of stock, then finally show the dress that i fell in love with and got. I would want to make it more interesting but i’m not sure how. I need some ideas fot that.

Some people were saying I should connect the wedding to UFC and Chris. Use it as I’m wrestling the wedding and Chris comes and wrestles me.

I’m not sure that I would be able to connect the ideas in the 2 minutes we have. I think that would be a great movie and be funny.  I don’t know how i would incorporate that into everything, it would either be too long or too short because i would have to add too much or leave out what went wrong with the wedding.

Something else someone said was Why we shouldn’t judge brides to be, which leads into bridezilla and “walking a mile in someone else’s shoes”

I think that i would be able to put this into the film because i am a “bride to be” and i always thought that the shows about brides made them out to be bitches but honestly its so stressful and if something goes wrong it will make you very upset because every thing is so hard to fix.  I think that I would be able to tie that in very good.

Some questions i think i would want to try and answer is why we shouldn’t judge “brides to be”, How hard it is to plan a wedding with a limited budget, time crunch, being a student and working, and not having a planner.  Also how my view has changed about planning a wedding, how hard it is, and how it makes your attitude change.

I’m pretty sure I want my topic to be planning the wedding. The reason I want to do this is because besides school and work this is all I’ve been working on the past few weeks. It interests me because before I started planning the wedding I thought that all the TV shows blew it out of proportion on how stressed a bride gets and i just thought they found the bitchiest people and filmed them. Now i know that it is stressful because everything has to be right and the right colors and work good for you and the day. That is difficult.

I want to talk about my experiences with planning the wedding. From picking out the rings (which is the only thing that went good) then picking out the dress and everything that went wrong with that, the vases and how wrong that went, the napkins how hard that was, the invitations and how difficult and time consuming they are. then probably wrap it up with some nice ending.

I really just want to get across that its difficult, but funny to others who hear it.

This video showed qualities of a personal essay. I think one of his last lines saying that to know him you need to know his music is important. This person is showing who he is through music. I connected it to the story we read, Good Workers. In Good Workers the writer is describing himself and others by the work they do. He says he always wanted to play an instrument but then grew to hate it. He then moved to love the guitar and learned to love music again. I think that this is like Good workers also because in Good Workers it seems to me that the narrator wanted to be a good worker, but when he started washing trucks he didn’t like it, but then he moved to doing other things and was still a good worker.

This video was interesting to me. I thought because there were no words it wouldn’t work but after I watched the whole video I thought it showed a lot. I think that this video took you through what this kid went through. I think that his dad was in an accident, went on life support, and then died. This takes you through the steps. It also shows a flashback to when he was younger with his dad. This lets you see what this kid went through. It allows you to feel an experience that maybe you haven’t felt before, which is a characteristic of a personal essay.

I’m getting married, that is really all I’ve been doing for the past few weeks besides school and work. I’ve been with my fiancee, Chris, for 5 years. He still needs to get his tux and I need to arrange for the flowers and were done finally! It’s been a lot of work for me and nothing seemed to be going my way. The dress I wanted wasn’t in stock, and the vases were the wrong color, but finally we got everything to work just right! Its a relief and I can’t wait to be done planning it. I always thought that women blew planning weddings out of proportion but I was completely wrong. It is so difficult and stressful, and I’m having a small wedding. I can’t imagine being a wedding planner… I would quit my first day.

Most likely after fall semester (if not it will be spring) I will be moving. We will be stationed somewhere, we have no idea yet. I’m taking summer courses so I can still get my degree from St. Rose. I’m hoping we will be stationed in North Carolina. Its kinds of close, at least its on the same side of the country. I figure we can drive home instead of flying but now because of gas flying will probably end up being cheaper soon if its not already.

I work at a school with 3-6 year olds, I’ve worked there for about 3 years. I absolutely love my job. This summer I will either be working at their summer camp or I will be a nanny for one of the families with 3 kids. They have a 5 month old, a 4 year old and a 7 year old. Either way it will be a lot of fun for me.

I’m completely obsessed with CSI. I love the show and think it would be awesome to do but i don’t like blood and dead people make me cry. I also don’t like the idea of being woken up at night. So I stuck with being a teacher.

I would like to say walking/ exercising is a hobby but I always find an excuse not to do it so I can’t say that. Chris and I do like hiking and we will start that soon, after my ankle feels better (i sprained it).

My obsession is chocolate milk. I need it to get me through the day… it is like coffee to me.

I love to ride- snowmobiles, 4wheelers, motorcycles. Those are my favorite things to do. I don’t own my own but my dad does.

I just learned how to cook when me and Chris moved in together around 8 months ago. I’m pretty good at cooking chicken and pork chops. Steak not so much, I always over cook it. I’m learning more though, and we try new recipes everyday.

Family is a lot to me. I’m actually getting married at the house I grew up in, its in Poestenkill… out in the country. Its nice, theres a creek a gazebo, I’ve always wanted to get married there and now I am.

I’m thinking about doing my film about something with the wedding, or I was thinking about doing something involving kids, and teaching.